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Working with a Sleep Consultant

You have finally decided that bedtime and night wakings have been hard enough for long enough. And naps are a daily battle you feel like you just aren’t winning. Now you’re ready for sleep training and more importantly ready to see your child really sleep well, and to catch up on sleep yourself! You’re ready to hire and work with a sleep consultant and you can’t wait to get started. Your enthusiasm is a great first step. What else can you do to make sure your work with a sleep consultant pays off and really works? Consider these tips to make the most of your sleep training. Perfect Timing Make sure you start the sleep training when you’ll have time to give it your full attention. You should ideally have two or three weeks with no travel or no major moves or building works before you start any plan to change your baby’s sleep. Plan on starting sleep training within one week of your initial consultation. That way, you can be sure that the plan is using accurate information and details about how your child is sleeping now. Many families find it easier to start their sleep training on a Friday night because both parents may be home for the weekend, making it easier to tag team the project and catch up on sleep during the day. Take Notes Before starting a sleep training plan, take notes about how your child is sleeping, eating, and even their behaviour. The more information you have to share with your consultant about what your family’s days and nights look like and about your child’s temperament, the easier it will be for her to make a sleep plan that really works for your family. Be diligent about keeping a sleep diary once you get started. Log details about when you put your baby down for a nap, how long it took for him to fall asleep, what you did or didn’t do to help him go to sleep or back to sleep. Do the same at bedtime and throughout the night. If your child is under 18 months, consider logging feedings too. We’re all a little bleary eyed when we aren’t getting enough sleep so set yourself up to take notes. Keep paper and a pen next to your child’s bed or outside the door to their room and jot down quick things like what time they woke up and went back to sleep.    Make sure both parents and any care givers are all keeping notes on how your sleep training plan is working. Be sure to share your notes with your consultant as you go along, especially if you find yourself frustrated during the process or if you change anything about how you are using your sleep training plan. Talk About It Even if you and your partner are champing at the bit to start sleep training, or if you’re a single parent who wishes you’d hired a consultant yesterday, it’s important to slow down long enough to know why you’re hiring a consultant and what your goals are. Do you hope to get your baby sleeping 12 hours uninterrupted at night? Or do you want him to sleep in longer stretches but still be fed once or twice before morning? Give yourself and your partner a chance to answer the question “why are we hiring a sleep consultant?” and “what do we want our child’s sleep to look like at the end of the process?” Are you both on the same page? Many couples find themselves on different pages when it comes to sleep. If you and your partner have different goals for your child’s sleep or one of you is more prepared to start sleep training, you’re not alone. Consistency is the single most important key to successful sleep training. Spend some time exploring your different feelings and finding strategies that make you both comfortable. Work as a Team Your child will learn new sleep habits quickest and best when you use a sleep training plan consistently. Make sure that everyone who helps your baby or child get to sleep day or night works together by including them in the process. Does your child have a nanny or babysitter that puts them down for naps during the day? Or does your child go to nursery while you work? It’s really important to explain it to them so they can keep up the consistency. Talk through how you and your partner will use your sleep plan to make sure you are a united front before you get started. How will you respond to your baby’s crying when you put him to sleep at bedtime? Will one of you respond to all of his night wakings, or will you divide the night? It’s much easier to discuss and decide those things in daylight than in the small hours of the night. Check in With Your Doctor While most sleep challenges in children and babies are behavioural and not medical, if you are unsure please speak with your doctor first in order to rule out any underlying medical conditions. Cover the Basics Set yourself and your child up for success by investing in a few basics to help create a sleep-friendly environment.   Blackout blinds and a white noise machine can help make a room dark and quiet. Make sure your baby has nappies that will keep them dry overnight and pyjamas appropriate for the season. Sleep training is hard work no matter how ready you are to get started. Using these recommendations can make a huge difference in whether your sleep training is a struggle or a super success! Thank you for reading. No Tears Sleep www.no-tears-sleep.com

Self Soothing

Teaching a little one to fall asleep on their own, is such a great feeling. Especially when you are finally able to lay them down without a struggle. You get to enjoy a happy bedtime routine together, give your baby kisses and cuddles, and he drifts off to sleep without a peep. I don’t think there’s any better feeling when you’re a parent that has been struggling with getting your baby to fall asleep and stay asleep. Here are some of my best tips for helping your baby fall asleep on his own! Solid bedtime routine. Make sure you have a consistent bedtime routine for your little one. Same routine, same time each night. This is very important. A baby will have a hard time falling asleep if his sleep schedule is all over the place, or the routine is always different. A consistent routine gives your little one predicability. When your baby knows what to expect, he will be more likely to accept it. Move feeding or nursing. If you are feeding or nursing your baby to sleep, you are going to want to break that feed-to-sleep association. So what you do is move the feeding to the beginning of your bedtime routine. Now your baby has the opportunity to fall asleep on her own and in her own sleep space. If your routine was PJ’s-book-feed. It should now be feed-PJ’s-book. Put your baby down, “drowsy but awake”. I know you have probably heard this a million times, but this really is a biggie. Laying your baby down awake is not easy and you will have to follow that up with a sleep training method, but it’s essential in helping your baby learn to self soothe. Making sure your baby is drowsy but awake before you lay him down, is very important. Pick a sleep training method and stick to it. It’s always a good idea to choose a sleep training method that you are comfortable with, so that you aren’t playing a game of trial and error. Parents are more likely to see the sleep training through if they are happy with what they have to do. If you are trying one thing, then another, this may confuse your little one. Inconsistency can lead to many, many, tears. Being consistent and following through with your sleep training method is the only way to be successful. Have a sleep training plan. If you have tried different methods, and nothing is working, it may be a good idea to have a sleep training plan. Some parents need a step by step guide, and there is nothing wrong with that. Getting help from someone that knows what they are doing and is able to provide you with that step by step plan, is invaluable when it comes to teaching your baby to sleep well. If you would like more individual help based on your baby’s unique situation, I offer personalised sleep plans with or without support. Teaching a little one to self soothe and fall asleep on his or her own is one of my specialties! Stay with your baby. Some little one’s feel more at ease knowing Mummy or Daddy is right by their side. Since your little one needs to learn the skills to self soothe and fall sleep on his own, he may fall asleep easier, if you are to start with, by her side, gently helping him to understand. Don’t worry, once your little one gets better at falling asleep on his own, you won’t have to stay with him at all. You will be able to lay him down after their bedtime routine, say good night and he will smile and drift off to sleep. Don’t give up! Parents often get discouraged with how difficult and overwhelming the first night can be. They give up, and don’t get to see that it gets easier. Each night is just a little bit better than the previous. As you progress, it gets better and better. By the end of the sleep plan your little one will most likely be falling asleep on his own in under 5 minutes. Even if it takes 2 weeks, that’s a great accomplishment. Don’t give up! Remember that we can teach your little one self soothing strategies as gently as you feel comfortable with, there is no need to leave your little one alone crying wondering if you are going to return, teach them kindly and gently and the sleepless nights will be history! If you are interested in a step by step sleep plan of how to teach your little one to self soothe and fall asleep on his or her own, please take a look at my packages and prices page or give me a call.

Sleep Training

No one can function properly having suffered sustained broken or irregular sleep, or even no sleep at all. Your body begins to self preserve, you feel grumpy, lethargic, emotionally unstable which makes the challenge of parenting even greater, you can easily slip into a vicious circle and this quickly becomes unhealthy. If you could bottle and sell a good night’s sleep, it would surely become the world's most valuable commodity. One common misconception about sleep training is that there is only one path to take This could not be further from the truth, in fact there are a number of ways parents can help their babies or children to develop good sleep habits. I prefer a structured yet gentle approach and using my proven techniques the results are as good or better than the old fashioned 'cruel to be kind' cry it out method and is certainly more sustainable. Leaving a child of any age to 'self soothe' for prolonged periods, which by any measure equates to leaving them to cry themselves to sleep, is distressing for the child and everyone in the household and by following my bespoke program is entirely unnecessary. My role as a sleep consultant is to give you the knowledge, techniques and confidence to set the right environment for sleep, assist your child into a consistent daily routine, remove sleep associations and sleep props and overcome habitual waking, so that your child learns to sleep independently.

Clock Changes

It seems like the winter just ended, and it’s already on the horizon — Daylight Saving Time! The week afterwards is usually one where everyone feels a little tired and cranky, or just a little “off”. Nobody feels it the way babies and small children do and yet they’re the least likely to understand why, and the most likely to be upset. But with a little preparation, you can transition your little ones to their new schedule before the change hits, leaving you with a well-rested baby even when the clock jumps ahead. Here are some tips on how to move to your new spring schedule with ease: Transition Slowly For some children (especially young babies), making the one-hour change will be overwhelming. A slow transition to the new bedtime before the actual time change can make spring just a little easier. The idea here is to adjust everything earlier before the actual time change. That way when 6 p.m. becomes 7 p.m., your child will already be used to the new schedule. About a week before the time change, begin putting your child to bed 15 to 20 minutes earlier, moving the time back every few days until you reach a full hour. A week ahead usually works best. So, if your child has a 7:00 p.m. bedtime, you want to begin with bedtime around 6:40 p.m., then 6:20 p.m., then 6:00 p.m. Make Naps a Priority One of the best ways to prepare your child for Daylight Saving Time is to make sure they are getting good naps for the few days before the time shift. This will help take the edge off of the discomfort associated with the upcoming changes. You want to set them up for success by ensuring they are well-napped so that they are not extra cranky headed into the weekend that the clocks change. Moving naps back 15 minutes at a time along with their bedtime will help keep their schedule consistent. Consider Blackout Curtains To help your baby sleep more soundly, consider installing blackout curtains or blinds and using a white noise machine. This will help all summer! It’s important to maintain their bedtime all year, but summer can be difficult when it stays light very late. Use Dramatic Wake-ups While you’re moving backwards before the change, your baby may begin waking early. Remember that waking an hour earlier will be the goal, so if it’s just an hour, great! If it’s more than an hour, encourage your child back to sleep. Follow that with a “dramatic wake-up”, where you go into their room at the appropriate time, open the blinds or curtains, turn on the lights, and give a cheerful, “good morning!” Watch Wake Windows With both naps and bedtime, be sure to pay close attention to your baby’s wake windows. If you’ve moved naps backwards along with bedtime, you’ll need to maintain the same amount of time between naps and bedtime. For example, if your 6-month-old starts her morning nap an hour early and then wakes up early, you’ll have to put her down for her afternoon nap early. The end result is the same amount of time between periods of sleep. Get Outside Take your baby outside first thing in the morning, or if it’s too cold, open the windows and let in some natural light. If there is little light in the morning early on, turn on the lights and make sure to either get outside later on for some sun. This will help “reset” her internal clock. Flexible Schedule Be as consistent as possible with your baby’s food and sleep schedule. This means that you need to shift all meals, snacks, and naps earlier as well. Watch the clock to stay on the new schedule of 15-20 minutes earlier, depending on what you’ve done with bedtime. Don’t forget to wake your child a bit earlier to help with this transition schedule. Adjust all meals, snacks, and naps to fit the “new” schedule on the same day that you shift to your child’s new, fully-adjusted bedtime. Age Appropriate Bedtime A time change is a great time for a “reset” if you’ve been a little off your schedule. Infants and babies do best with a bedtime between 7:00 and 8:00 p.m. If things have been sliding a little, a time change is a great opportunity to gradually move their bedtime to an ideal hour. Take advantage of this short disruption to get on track! Soothing Bedtime Routine Babies and young children thrive on routine. Most likely you have a set of activities that communicate to your child that it’s time to get ready for sleep. A bath, story, pyjamas on, a kiss and a song — these will all need to move back in order to make up for that lost hour. Like the bedtime, move the routine backwards during the week before the clocks change. This is also a great opportunity to start a routine that calms and soothes, or to shorten your routine if it has become too long. The Alternative: Doing Nothing Adults and older children may be successful going “cold turkey” and just moving the clocks on the Sunday that the clocks change. Undoubtedly, everyone feels it for at least a week when done this way. But with young children, a little planning the week before can make things much easier after the change. If you do decide on this method, be sure that you get outside to the sun the morning afterwards to help re-set everyone’s internal clocks. Naps and bedtime will then all be according to the new time. For the Autumn fall back clock change, do exactly the same but move your timing back not forward.

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